To Black List or Not To Black List

I have loved hearing from so many of you and I especially love those who leave their comments on these posts. It is your input that keeps this blog going, so please add your thoughts. You are here for a reason, so please let that reason be known. You can leave your comments anonymously so come on, give it a go and help out others who are feeling frustrated.

I have heard from many of you and have heard it mentioned a few times now that many want to start a "black list". Here is a message I left for someone who was very upset the other day about not receiving her swap package. She mentioned a black list as well.


Hi ******,
I am so sorry to hear about your experience. I have been "screwed" a few times and it really burns me up, hurts my feelings. I always put a lot into my swap partner's items and when they don't even send and especially don't even acknowledge what I have done, just bums me up.

I recently started a new blog called "Did I Really Get Screwed On That Swap !?!?" I would love for you to post your story on my blog. I started it as a way to vent about how I was feeling, get a giggle and so that others could do the same. Thought it might be kind of therapeutic. When people post, I add it to my post. I even have it set up so people can post anonymously.

I haven't joined as many swaps now, but I know there are still a lot of good people out there to swap with and have been lucky enough to know some. I hope that you will get through this and continue in this wonderful community that we have.

Your idea of a "blacklist" cracks me up. My plan was that if people did visit my blog and share their stories, I might just do that. I thought people could send me private emails and I could start a list, and if someone was named twice (which if you read my blog you will hear another gals story of just that) then I would list that person. You know the saying, "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me". It is a problem here in our community, full of people who just want to share what they love. Now we have ratings to have just to be in a swap. Pathetic! I can understand that stuff happens, but once a person does it to two different people, that is just WRONG! And to those people I say GET A LIFE!

Sorry to say so much, you have touched on a topic that is obviously very close to me. Please visit me... and thanks for sharing your story with us!

So there you go. I am willing to start this list if others have an interest, but you have to let me know. I think it is necessary to note as well, however, how you have tried to contact the other party and what their response has or has not been.

I would like to add as well a list of those who have "screwed" others over in a group project. I have read about many book swaps, pass along books that people take turns doing pages in, and books where each person makes a page and sends it to one person who then sends each person a finished book. I have read about lots of people who have dropped out last minute without so much as even telling anyone that they are not going to take part. This not only messes up the book, but makes it so another person who wants to add to it can not because the swap is full.

So, keep those comments coming. I need YOU to make this work.